Creativity and Love
Being neurotic one lives repeating the same mistakes, creating the same types of situations and insisting frustrating relationship. Being healthy is have option, is to choose and most importantly, know how to create new options. Use creativity in love is to turn into fire ashes almost erased. Research shows that couples who live together for more than 30 years and consider themselves happy use creativity to solve a problem. For example: “if the husband does not have time, make an appointment with fictitious name in his daily planner and a surprise appearance,” “nice dinner with candlelight and the best wine,” … The predisposing conditions are always to the fight is when in this position by surprise, half the bitterness disappears. People carry a lot of tension during the workday, and often take it home and add to domestic problems. We have to be creative to unload this tension. Be creative its ability to not suffer unnecessarily is to better resolve conflict and situations. It is very enriching to life, using the two basic functions of the creative imagination: the quest and enhancement. The search is as a beacon with which we find again in ourselves to each other. The improvement and just to make love grow in the relationship. Why not use our creative potential; we fall into the trap of routine, which both destroys a relationship. Complaints about the routine of the couple are the most common and interesting and that people do not realize that each individual is responsible for routine in which he lives. The routine follows a predetermined path of laziness, convenience or fear of reckless to the point of balance. All that builds with love is a new order, and the greatest task and transformation. The routine is finally repeating the same answers, the same behaviors. A minimum of routine, however, it is necessary for us to keep organize day by day. The man, have the ability to create and transform, but many people live by repeating the same mistakes, delaying or postponing major changes, is just acting like beasts. When man creates, looks like God, unlike the irrational animals.

GOD SPOKE TO ME
God spoke to me today little about the raw material of the miracle faith is the condition to be receiving the miracle. Raw material miracle it is when we find ourselves in the situation that we can go neither forward nor backward, it is like in sand trap to be still to be sinking if we try to move we sink even faster, so what to do ? I say to all you have to have faith, put into practice the faith and receive the miracle. When we put our faith into action, it is when we need a miracle, faith in Jesus is faith of the impossible, it is when is no more hope in the visible, when our body our flesh arrives at the edge of reality, something different happens within the believer the one serving God with the truth, a seed of greatness, was emptied of its glory and became man like me and the creator became a creature, creature became sovereign, God now as a man, He did great deed the deaf hear, the blind see, the dumb to speak and even raised the dead from the grave, this man lived here, sinless and won so I could be like him. The man who made this tremendous work and wonderful humbled himself even more, not with glory shining, now he humiliated, becoming a slave and washed the feet of those who walked with him and being a slave he humbled himself up to the death on the cross.
This Jesus whom we have received, he died on the cross. But the Bible says that the bonds of death could not conquer it and the third day He was resurrected from the dead, known that, Jesus lives in us and who changes everything and when we are staked in a sand trap, what we do, look up for Jesus who won and now lives in us so that we might have life, look at the price He pay so we can live a life of victory and miracle, yes God did speak to me today, HE TOLD ME MIRACLES DO HAPPENS.

  Before I get started, let me tell you my brief background of the stress over the course of my life.  I was the only child in a broken home and was raised by an alcoholic mother that left me on my own when I was 15.   After that I was in the ARMY, a Deputy Sheriff, Counselor for teens with addictions and behavior problems,  Car sales consultant, unemployed,  Divorced and re-married, and the most pleasurable stress of being a father to six great kids and a husband to the most amazing wife ever.   In the last 37 years I have had to deal with anything from life and death decisions to what do I wear to dinner tonight!  Im not a doctor and i don’t have a degree in social services.  I am just offering helpful ideas that have helped me and my family get through rough times as we manage life’s challenges. I always say that you can make a tool box of helpful life tools and the more you have , the easier it is to find the one that fits what needs worked on!   So with that said lets start and remember that all the advice wont work for everyone.

   Lets start with one thing that I feel helps me out alot with stress that builds up.  It may sound to simple but it has worked for me and others that I know.  “WRITE IT DOWN”  See, told you it sounded simple! Most people wont go to the harware store with out a list of things they need to complete a job, so why not make a list of things needed work on stress?  What I do is take a moment and sit down with a piece of paper or a keyboard and start with what is on my mind the most. Example, if the monthly bills are bugging me the most at that time, then I write down “the bills” and leave space below it.  Then I move on to the next thing in my head like “house cleaning” or “work”  and keep jotting down the things that are bottled in me.  You don’t have to organize them or give them any priority, just put whats in your head on paper so you can see it.  Now that they are all in black and white I can focus on each one separately by going back to the top and looking at what I put down.  Now i think about that topic only for a few minutes then start putting dow ideas that will help resolve the problem or at least make it more managable.  Example, if the monthly bills are a stress then i may write down to work on a budget or even just tart working on the budget right then.  I may even ask my wife t help me if I cant get it or have a good idea.  having someone else look at the list you made can help some times for more than one reason.  There are times we need fresh ideas that we just cant come up with our self.  Other times it ma just help a wife or a freind understand what we are faced with and they can understand our behavior better even if they dont have an solutions for the problems.  But I find that once I have some of my stressful problems on paper in front of me that I can think more clear on ways to handle them.  I also have something to refer back to if I get distracted during this time.  Distracted? Six kids?  I cant imagine a distraction happening!  I have also learned while doing this that I can reflect on how I have reacted to other problems based on what I was stressing over.  Other times I have found that one was over shadowing another and causing something simple to become larger than what it ever needed to be.  Now, I know that you cant fix everything by simply writting it down, but you may be able to manage stressful problems better when you can work on them one at a time instead of all at once.  Try it, it may just work for you.  Maybe even try it together with some one that you trust because there are times that two minds are better than one and others can see things in a different light than we can.

I hope that when you read this you can take into account that so many of our soldiers have traveled around the world just to keep us safe. Most have seen things that other cant even imagine. I have been there and have that it is still hard to express to the ones that I love what I went through and why I focus so hard on showing everyone around me each day how much they mean to me. I have found that writing these short stories helps some times even though Im not sure if the meaning of them is clear. My post are to give you a look inside the mind of a soldier that on one side has seen unspeakable death and destruction but on the other is a loving husband and father. Please check back as I add more to this. the more that read, the more I wil post!

He wakes and steps to the door. The door leads to a new place and each time he wakes he hesitates to open it. The memories of days before rush through his head in a cloud of groggy haze. Some make him feel warm like a summer day with a gentle breeze blowing through his heart.The faces of his wife and kids lead most of these thoughts like a slide show in his mind. The memories are so real that for a moment he can hear his wives voice like a whisper in the wind and he gasp a quick breath and then its gone.
The other memories are more like the aching pain he feels in his joints after a long day of work. Throbbing deep below the surface, out of reach of any relief. The faces with these memories have no names, just strangers that come and go with each passing day. Too many to remember where they was from or were they was to go. The days blend together and the time stretches as the hours spent away from home seem like years. As these memmories rush into his head a cold sensation runs up his spine chilling him right to the bone. The traveler then takes a deep breath and prepares to open the door to the new days voyage. He knows that the longer he stands at the door the longer the day will be. So with that he opens the door and steps into the whirl wind of time and begins the voyage that will follow a long road home. That’s his drive and that then becomes the focus of his mind as he steps out the door into the reckage of hate and war, he takes comfort in knowing that today is the new beginning to the end and home is just a few more open doors away. He smiles and looks forward to when the faces on the other side of the opening door are the angels of his love living in his heart and home.